3 Helpful Ways To Transition Your Child

The past few weeks, I have been focusing on ways to help children with anger. One of the times that I see children and parents become most angry is during transitions. Whether it be leaving the park or getting to school, many meltdowns can happen as we try to get our kids from one place to the next. ⠀

Today I will share ways to make transitions a bit easier, bringing more calm to you and your family. ⠀

Transition Tip #1. “As soon as ....”⠀

This phrase is pure gold! When it is time to clean up or leave the house, I let me kids know with the phrase “as soon as ...” rather than a demand of what they need to do next. This makes children feel more in control and instantly cuts down on arguments. ⠀

Here are some examples,⠀

✨ “As soon as you clean up your toys we can go downstairs for dinner.” ⠀

Instead of, “Clean up now!”⠀

✨ “As soon as you put on your shoes, we can go to the park.” ⠀

Instead of, “Put on your shoes.”⠀

Transition Tip #2: Use a timer or a voice reminder. ⠀

Children do well with routines. Always giving them advance notice before it is time to change activities is a great way to make transitions more peaceful. ⠀

When I tell my children that we will transitioning in 10 minutes (they don’t need much more of an advanced warning than that), I ask them if they would like me to set a timer for 10 minutes or give them a voice reminder when it is time to leave. This gives them a sense of control in deciding how I will inform them when their 10 minutes is up. ⠀

Transition Tip #3: Routine Chart ⠀

For morning and night time routines, we use the Routine Chart from Positive Discipline. The Routine Chart is a wonderful way to include children in the decision making process. The Routine Chart helps minimize transition meltdowns because children know exactly what to expect consistently. You can watch a video of my explaining how to create a Routine Chart in my Free Parenting Webinar (click the link in my Instagram bio). ⠀