“Life is tough, my darling, but so are you.”

Remember when you were little and life didn’t seem so tough? I mean, sure, there was the time in grade school when those girls didn’t talk you for a day or the time when your dad got mad and yelled. But life wasn’t exhausting. Five-year-old you didn’t wake up thinking, “Dang! I have to do today …”

Adult you though, knows how tough life can feel sometimes. Adult you knows what it is like to wish you could just check out at 4 pm and put those kids to bed at 6 o’clock (remember when your kids were babies and they went to bed that early! Oh, those were the days …). Adult you knows what it is like to have wrinkles, back sag (is that a term? If not, it should be), and real stress about finances and future plans. Adult you feels the difficulty of life sometimes.

So, this post is for the adult you. The woman that is raising those children, rocking those family dinners, and trying to squeeze in a moment of time for yourself in the midst of it all. 


In the words of Stephanie Bennett-Henry, “Life is tough, my darling, but so are you.” But today, let’s not just be tough like life. Let’s use that toughness to squeeze the joy out of the day. Here’s how I do it and how you can do it too -

1. Start the morning with a gratitude list! I write down 10 things that I am grateful for. I do this before anyone in my home wakes up so that I still have things to be grateful for (once they’re up there is no telling what craziness may ensue and my gratitude can quickly go to grumpy). 😂 

2. Give extra smiles on each errand throughout the day! I take extra time to talk to the clerk at the grocery store or connect with the teller at the bank. The joy I bring to those interactions is reflected back to me. The other day this teenager in a white truck drove right in front of me and swiped my parking spot in front to Tutu School. You know what I did? I said a blessing for him. I smiled! I give out positivity the best I can in each situation that I am in. 

3. Take a moment to give yourself some freakin’ love! Holly guacamole. How much time do we spend doing things for everyone else, worrying about what other people think about us, and judging ourselves both inside and out?! We are harder on ourselves than anyone would ever be on us. So, I spend at least 10 minutes a day in quiet meditation and think loving and positive thoughts about myself. Then, I look in the mirror from time to time and compliment myself. Give yourself the love you deserve!

Have a Rockin’ Day and Be Bold, My Friends!