After my son was born, I stopped at the grocery store on the way home from the hospital to grab some food. My husband waited in the car with the baby, and I (the one who knew how to do everything best), ran quickly inside for our needed groceries.
It makes me sad when I think about that moment, not because the act of going to the grocery store was wrong, but because I didn't have the ability to ask for help. I didn't need to take that on myself after just having given birth. I didn't need to be the mom that did everything. I didn't know that I even had a choice.
Being a new mother is simultaneously one of the greatest and most overwhelming experiences. For me, I was full of hormones that often made me anxious, I was deliriously tired. And, I also felt the need to still show up and participate in life. If I could go back and talk to that new mama that I was six-and-a-half years ago, I would tell myself ...
It is okay to leave the house messy.
It is okay to lay in bed ALL DAY LONG.
It is okay if you miss the regularly scheduled events that you used to do before you had a brand new baby.
It is okay to do it "wrong", or different, or half-assed.
As long as you are taking care of that baby and also taking care of yourself, then nothing else matters.
I would tell myself ...
Drink lots of water.
Turn off your phone most days.
Lay in bed and snuggle, snuggle, and snuggle.
Happy Saturday to all the parents out there, especially the ones who are being hard on themselves. Today's mantra: I am enough. I do enough.