marriage goals

How To Communicate With Your Husband

“And you’ll never sleep 12 hours again,” I half joked with a bunch of moms with toddlers. ⠀

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“Oh, but that’s not true,” they said, “you do sleep again.”⠀

And then it hit me. They had slept again because they had asked for help. I hadn’t slept again because, honestly, I hadn’t asked to sleep again. ⠀

So, I asked! ⠀

And, in a time of healing and growth with my husband, we sat down and came up with a plan. ⠀

Mamas, you don’t have to do everything alone! ⠀

You don’t have to balance work, dishes, dinners, driving, and, squeeze in a moment for yourself if you’re lucky. ⠀

Here’s how my husband and I ask for help with each other -⠀

We schedule a time for a one-on-one family meeting. ⠀

We share things that are going well and things that we need help with or concerns we have. ⠀

We stay away from blaming each other. We focus on our own feelings and our own needs. ⠀

If one of us starts to get too upset, we say we will revisit the conversation later. ⠀

Last night as my husband and I giggled while brushing our teeth, I was in awe of our connection and laughter. After having children, it has taken a lot of work to get back to that place. I’m glad we continue to work (and I’m grateful I’m no longer trying to do it all in my home). ⠀

With Love,⠀

Laura⠀