Your threenager was at it again ... screaming, stomping, saying “I don’t wanna!” and “You can’t make me!”
Yes, I’ve been there too.
Yes, this little beauty ️ had an epic cry hours before this picture was taken.
Yes, I have learned some effective tools that really work.
And, Heck Yes, they’ll work for you too!
1. Connect - connect with your upset child. Offering a hug is a wonderful way to dispel the tantrum.
No, it isn’t rewarding the behavior. The hug soothes the nerves and then allows you to correct or redirect the behavior after.
Positive Discipline says to offer the hug 3 times and if they still don’t want one you can simply say, “come find me if you would like a hug.”
2. Role Play during a calm time what your child can do the next time she is upset. Would she like to find a special calm down space in the house? Draw a picture? Listen to music? Role Playing options ahead of time can empower your child to find solutions the next time she is upset.
3. Remember that, “this too shall pass.” Your little one may talk like she’s 17, but she is actually tiny and her prefrontal cortex isn’t developed. She is learning autonomy, which is normal for this age, so in times of insanity try to remember that this is all very normal and it won’t be like this forever.
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